When every day begins to feel like yesterday, it’s time for a change. Recognizing that we need to make a change is the easy part. And what’s even easier is to think the change we need is something outside of ourselves: a new job, a new city, a new relationship, a new bank account. When the truth is, the shift needs to happen inside us first.
Cool. We can get that. I get it: change myself. I can vibe with that. But as I begin to bring my shadows into the light, it’s as if I begin to lose my breath. They are too big. Too strong. They’ve been a part of me for too long. Can we really part?
The desire to break free of old habits is a romantic gesture. We long for better days… days where we can be disciplined and healed. But what happens between the desire to break free and the actual doing of breaking free? We become hoarders.
We only have a certain amount of waking moments in the day. Depending on how much we sleep, those hours of consciousness are our moments to create. We fill our minds and our vibration with thoughts and feelings that later create our world.
Patterns and habits that are no longer serving us, involve negative thoughts. The time that we do have to create our lives is at capacity with old, automatic thoughts, which is why life feels constrained. It’s why I felt out of breath and overburdened when I knew something needed to change.
We are frustrated by not seeing change, by not seeing a new day, because we are unwilling to clean house. What we might do is take in a bunch of new positive info. Maybe some new classes. New self-help books. A new group coaching class. A new church. And while all of that is great, if there is no room in your conscious moments for the new it just won’t stick.
I have this rule where if I see that I’m running out of hangers in my closet, it’s time to see what clothes I can give away. I don’t need a new closet or a new storage system. I need to make space for the new clothes.
The same goes for us. When we’re trying to see something different than what yesterday was, we need to make room. We need to hold a strong guard of the thoughts that cross our mind throughout the day. Anything old that is taking up space, we must ask it to leave. All that time we spend worry needs to be eliminated. It just can’t happen anymore. Instead of worrying, what can we create? How can we move forward? How can we use our time in a way that honors our desires?
We must make the choice to break free. We must be willing to stop indulging in those moments of panic, worry, and distress. Instead, occupy the moments with active positivity that is aligned with your truth. Create the space for change.